How to overcome any kind of addiction?

How to overcome any kind of addiction? Food, Relationship, Social Media, Phone, Alcohol Etc.

How to overcome any kind of addiction? In order to do that you need to completely understand what addiction is? Obviously, addiction takes place in the mind. Your mind has three systems the conscious, subconscious and the unconscious. And all these three systems work for you. Now, you control only one the conscious. So how does addiction of any kind take place?

When you consciously start doing something it gets registered in all three of your systems. When you continue doing the same thing it transforms into a habit. Addiction is basically a habit gone out of your control. Now, this transformation greatly depends on the nature of the thing that you're doing. What do I mean by nature of the thing? Here nature means does it give you pleasure paint? Does it cause irritation? The nature of the act decides whether it will become a habit sooner or later? Basically things that give you pleasure requiring minimum effort are more likely to become a habit much faster than things that take a lot of effort and give less to zero pleasure. 

Let's divide it in short term and happiness long-term happiness. Short-lived happiness is achieved by doing things that give us a short burst of pleasure. A joke, hanging out with friends, chatting online with girls, having a lover, gaming, watching comedy on YouTube, masturbation, eating, drinking, smoking, lazing around facebooking, Snapchatting, Instagram. You get the picture right? The thing in common in all of these activities is you receive great pleasure while doing them. The moment they end the pleasure dies. So in order to keep feeling good you repeat them without any moderation. 

Therefore becoming an addict without even knowing about it. You are watching videos online for hours without realizing you're addicted. Sending requests, messages, chatting because you are addicted not to a girl but girls/boys in general. You are willing to throw away your work, studies and opportunities just so you can spend more time with your partner. Because you get happy by being around them. So you want more and more and more of that inevitably. Becoming an addict of that person or a group of friends, which is called depending. Dependents are the ritual of hanging out or any activity like gaming, masturbation, chatting anything that gives you instant pleasure. Basically addiction is an attempt to stress the short term happiness to long-term happiness by keep doing them. 

Now if that's the case then why don't we simply focus on long-term happiness. Long-term happiness is an achievement based which means the pleasure, the element that you love the most comes after you achieve something in the process. There are no happy feelings or pleasure on the contrary. They Got hardship, seriousness and discipline. For example studying, going to the gym, practicing an interest, perfecting a craft, learning focusing. All of these things are traditionally the opposite of fun. And that is why it's hard to make such things. 

Humans by nature are lazy beings. We seek to extract pleasure from the easiest options available, which is why we focus on short-term pleasures because they require absolutely no effort without realizing we may be screwing ourselves up in the future. That is the answer to why they become addicts of anything. The question is once you become addicted to something, why is it impossibly hard to undo it?

THREE REASONS WHY IS IT IMPOSSIBLY HARD TO OVERCOME AN ADDICTION-

1. Pleasures

This is all, this activity basically takes place in the mind. You need to understand something about it. Your brain recognizes and prefers following patterns, when it sees that you're doing something daily or four hours each day it fits that activity into a pattern and introduces it into your daily routine. Now, that is where pleasure becomes a game changer. Pleasure is not some abstract inexplicable phenomenon, whenever you experience of burst of pleasure happiness. There is a release of hormones in your brain from masturbation to watching videos to be around the person you want to be with these hormones are the reason behind those happy feelings. So addiction is a habit gone out of control. It means you are abusing the short-term pleasures by repeating them, which technically means you are abusing the release of hormones in your brain and your brain is taking that abuse into a cottage .

Don't fit into a pattern and introduce it as a new routine, which makes you want to do it every day more and more. And that is why you don't realize you have become an addict until it starts to have serious consequences. Different people are addicted to different things. But all those addictions are connected through a common thread "short-term pleasures". This is why it is super hard to be addicted to working out as opposed to watching porn, chatting on Facebook, WhatsApp, browsing through different social medias. There is no pleasure in working out, studying, learning something from scratch, creating or building something unless you love it. Otherwise, it is simply very hard work. And I know that I'm repeating myself, but I do so because it is highly important. This is the reason why generations after generations people will continue becoming an addict of something or the other. Simply because we are lazy and we want to be happy and because we are lazy we look for the easiest ways to be happy and repeat them and judiciously so we can extend the stratum pleasure. One day you will realize that you've done nothing except that and life will be throwing a lot of opportunities your way in which you are going to mess because you didn't update your qualities. You didn't learn anything because you wasted all of your time. 

Now, tell me how many of you already feel that way about relationship that you wasted a lot of time in it? Adults do so many things so much during that same time, but you wouldn't put the same blame on gaming, Facebook, Instagram, YouTube. Why because they seemed very innocent ? what you don't realize is that there functioning is based on addiction. How much time you spend on them? And how can they improve on it? Those are their prime concerns. The entire revenue model centers around extent of your addiction. Do you want to avoid it? Keep a check on the short-term pleasure because it is impossible to avoid them entirely. You need relaxation, but focus on the word relaxation and use the amount of short-term pleasures leave it to relax yourself and have fun but don't start abusing them because they're too easy to abuse. You already have inner focus on the long-term pleasures. Choose the hard things, the hard work in your life because they result not happiness but contentment. This helps you keep away from depression. Depression often times is linked with addictions you create. For example, what is the most common source of depression? Break up? But you will be fascinated to know that not all breakups including bad breakups result in depression because there is a distinction inventor relationship was approached. If you make your partner the prime source of your happiness the moment they're gone you will be devastated. As a result a lot of better understanding people come up with a theory called "It's true love". You know by spending is wanting to spend all your time with that person. You became an addict of the short-term pleasure called "their company". When they cut off from that endless supply of pleasure what are you going to feel? Panic? Craving? Desire for a company immediately needs satisfaction and develop compromise and self-destruction to get back that supplies of happiness. Because your brain doesn't know it is unhealthy and it has been unhealthy for a long. I mean already your brain manages your good health based on the choices you make so once you enter that vacuum of pleasure leading to depression you decide to replace it with other sources of short-term pleasures masturbating, excessively binge, watching TV shows and online videos, gaming, rebound relationships, casual hookup, smoking, drinking, creating newer dangerous habits and addictions trying to fill the vacuum of pleasure. People who see relationships as only one aspect of their lives have a lot of stuff going on and are focused so they take very less time to move on. So what do we learn? Your brain wants you to be happy when you do or expose yourself to something that gives you huge happiness. Your brain registers it and encourages you to do more of that because it sees it as a sign of good health. It means that every single day your brain will automatically start demanding you to do that. I know, you're thinking why doesn't your brain stops you from doing or wanting these stuffs.

Because you are its owner, it works for you. It's job is to process anything you are introducing in the system. Also, these activities initially do make you happy. 

2. DENIAL

Why it is hard to undo an addiction? Addictions usually grow stronger because we deny their existence not only to others but to ourselves. Let me give you an example of denial. Let's say there is a guy who's trying, maintains that he hates going to clubs. But once upon a time he went to a club. Actually now consciously he still believes an intrinsic level that he hates plus whenever he's asked by a strange to visit one. All he needs is a little bit convincing. It happens because subconsciously that one claw memory or the idea of clubbing is attached to happiness. So consciously he might still didn't want to go but he went on. To explain that he will most probably blame his friends "it was because of them, they dragged me". Lot of people do things which they then blame on others. You are not anybody's slave you did that because of a happy association. This is very complicated but common.

3. LACK OF UNDERSTANDING

which leads you to think that you are a victim. The worst thing about addiction is a feeling that it has now become a part of my life, which is unchangeable. It happens because you don't understand how it works. The truth is it is only a routine that you have built. You bring changes in your routine all the time. But because there is nobody to tell you that and you're getting served by your own brain for that doors of pleasure, you think that there is no solution. If there wasn't then how come so many people have quit their addictions. Of course, it is possible. 

Here is an example 

When you break up with your partner. Consciously, you want to move on in a minute. You're telling yourself that it is over now, you're free to date other people to do anything, but you find yourself unable to move on and for that very reason you started losing yourself that maybe she is the one. Here's what you need to understand. You control only one part of your brain 'the conscious' and it knows and understands that the relationship is over, but the other two parts aren't controlled by you and they have their own pace of understanding. Now, I understand this article is getting longer and longer but bear with me the first step to solving any problem is understanding its mechanisms. How it works. When you know how it works. You can fix it. When most people try to put their addictions they find it hard and as a result, they think they are slaves to their addictions. Why is brain and body wanting me to do it so badly? Especially when I don't want to? All you do is consciously focus on a new routine and wait for your subconscious and unconscious and your body in case it is a physical addiction to make the necessary adjustments and they will because they are working for you. 

It takes from 20 to 28 days to build a new habit to whatever you want to quit just quit it for 28 days. And whenever you feel that compulsion just know that it is the other two systems getting confused and trying to make it. Follow a daily pattern that you had previously said and now you're going to change it. It's like you are working in a factory and you have three very capable workers under you. One of them stays right next to you, but the other two work in a different building. When you decide to stop in addition to tell the worker next to you that the production of this particular product has to stop but you are unable to convey the same to the other two workers. So as responsible workers, they are doing everything in their power to send you messages, warning, signs, reminders, which you would identify as urges to do that. Very thing to get instant dose of pleasure, which they see as a sign of good health. 

Your addictions make you happy. You understand that it is actually bad for you, but you can't convey that to your subconscious and unconscious part of your brain. Which is why at the back of your head you will have urges or soft spot for those addictions for the rest of your life. It's the price you pay for it. As Reckless decisions and choices you make in your life to break it down. 

Here are a few points

The very first thing you need to do is evaluate your daily routine right now and call out your addictions to make a decision that you're going to stop them for 28 days. That's it. Don't use the word quitting. You're just taking a break from all those activities for 28 days. You're not going to do them even once. Understand that you are in charge of your life. You are the conscious part of your brain. You will decide what your life becomes. Your addictions, habits, choices are your initiatives. Take responsibility for these in the time you stop your addiction, you will experience a vacuum. Now, this could be replaced by other addictions which we do not want instead. I would ask you to build new habits centering around the motive to make your life healthier, to make ourselves physically healthier. We have chips, but what about the mind? Most edictions take days when you have a lot of time. Try to build an active social life by finding your social interest. What connects you to this world? And watch movies you like to give back. Take up instruments or languages courses on different subjects that interest you. All these interests will help you in a few ways. You will need a lot of new people with similar interests. You will feed positive venturing into newer territories you have with these new skills and you will move away from loneliness, which is possibly the biggest trigger of it. If your data is managed by randomness or chaos, you might think that by way your brain is managing all that chaos and shifting it into an order that isn't chosen by you and that's how you become a victim of triviality because when the time comes for a series, order or a routine to be in place, it becomes impossibly hard. 

It is you who will have conquered your addiction. Now, you make the choice again to permanently stop the madness and embrace a new habit lifestyle you have created. So introduce moderation in your life. We all need fun relationships, friends, entertainment and relaxation. They should be done by choice and not random selection or external persuasion. And masturbation is natural if you abuse it you are abusing the natural order of your body. Same goes with eating, exercising and even sleeping. Extremes of everything must be avoided for better mental and physical health. Understand that the idea of fun comes with a responsibility of self-control. why? because every action carries consequences. That is a natural log. Every action will have consequences moral or physical or both. So you cannot expect the nothing will come out of an ashen as long as it is under the broad spectrum of fun. Most people tend to think that way and they do lots of stupid shit in the name of fun they wouldn't otherwise. Lastly if you are addicted to a substance medicines drugs, then you seriously need to consider medical help, cooperation of your loved ones and maybe you should check yourself into a rehabilitation center. In this article i have talked about mostly psychological addictions which are broadly related to pleasure. 

The neurotransmitter called dopamine whereas alcohol drugs, pills not only mess with your mind they change your brain chemistry, they trigger different neurotransmitters and they take over. If you want more details comment below and i sill write an article on chemical neurotransmission. I didn't talk about any scientific solution or anything. I wanted this to be a friend talking to you. 

I know, the science lesson and most importantly if you are young you haven't taken drugs or don't mind taking drugs. Don't. Please don't ever. Know it's a beautiful character building scary word to use it with. Similarly it is scary because people don't expect hearing that they feel that it scares them because it makes them question themselves. You're going to meet a lot of people who in the name of coolness, fun beast mode, status, behavior are going to push drugs on you, ' just have it once' 'Just one track one time for me' 'You can do it for me' 'Don't be a pussy' How are we going to have fun? I promise you they are morons. In that moment that maybe a person you look up to you think it's a genius clever form of charisma, but they are clueless idiots. Say no even if you are breaking their hearts. Get away from there and get away from such people as far as you can. Doesn't matter how cool you think they are, get them out of your life. Not everything is meant to be experienced. You're going to hear a persuasion tactic called 'you try everything at least once in their lifetime'. But don't .

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